During my entire childhood, I was shy. Around the age of 12, my mom took me to a psychologist that said I was an introvert. She said there’s no problem being introverted, and I should look for activities that fit my profile.
The advice that could have helped me build a wonderful life had the opposite effect. I became more and more isolated, losing countless good opportunities in life.
The psychologist was right; I’m an introvert. But maybe she didn’t explain the difference between shyness and introversion, or perhaps I didn’t understand correctly.
When I started working with chakras, I understood that shyness and introversion are different. As a result, my life has changed for the better.
I want to share what shyness and introversion mean and mainly clarify that they are not the same. Furthermore, I want you to get the best out of your personality type and live a fulfilled life!
Characteristics of a Shy Person
Shyness is nothing more than fear, a fear of social judgment, a fear that people will look at you and realize that you are not good enough. It’s an internal perception of not being worthy, loved, and respected.
Shy people can’t do things that exceed their comfort zone. Let’s suppose you have a circle around you. Everything inside of it, you are comfortable doing, for example, interacting with your family and friends. Therefore, even a shy person feels at ease in specific social interactions.
On the other hand, a person without shyness has a bigger circle. Thus, they can have social interactions without so much discomfort. Basically, the shy person only feels shame when forced to extrapolate their confidence circle, aka comfort zone.
And since the shy has a smaller circle, even some everyday situations make them feel highly uncomfortable. In short:
Timidity = fear of social judgment.
Introversion is something completely different. It is how you respond to stimuli, including social stimuli. Introverts feel more comfortable and produce more when they are in quiet environments; when performing solitary activities.
An introvert learns best when reading a book. On the other hand, an extrovert performs better in a classroom, interacting with other people. However, both an introvert and an extrovert will have no problem raising their hand and asking questions. In contrast, the shy doesn’t dare to ask questions going home without taking full advantage of the class.
Another example: an introvert and a shy person have to give a speech. Both are anxious before the lecture, but the introvert becomes more comfortable during the talk and generally performs much better.
After the lecture, an introvert, instead of going to a bar to celebrate with friends, as an extrovert would do, goes home to rest to recharge their energy. While the timid one goes home feeling guilty for having failed.
Never assume that loud is strong and quiet is weak.Unknown
By the way, energy is totally connected to confidence. A person without energy can’t be confident, can’t make things happen. The raw material of action is energy. If you want to strengthen your confidence, you must know how to manage it and recharge it.
Everything is Energy
The chakras are our energy centers. When they are in harmony, our bodies are healthy, and our minds and emotions are balanced. We can achieve optimal performance in everything we do.
Each of the 7 energy centers works together and affects each other. For example, 3 chakras directly affect self-confidence: the base (1st), splenic (2nd), and throat (5th) chakras.
The base chakra influences our sense of security, splenic self-esteem, and throat self-criticism.
The interaction of these 3 chakras builds self-confidence. Self-confidence is vital to breaking shyness.
As we can see in the chart above, shy people, in general, have the base (red) and splenic (orange) chakras in scarcity and throat (blue) chakra in excess. Suppose you don’t feel secure, lack self-esteem, and criticize yourself too much. In that case, it is difficult to expose yourself to other people.
Please note that I am generalizing for educational purposes; each person is unique. The shy can also have excessive self-esteem (2nd chakra), and so on.
If you would like to receive a personalized diagnosis, please contact me.
The important thing here is to understand that we need to balance these 3 chakras to become self-confident.
The good news is that you can build strong self-confidence as you build muscles. It just requires dedication and practice. I’ve put together 22 practical ideas for you to develop your self-confidence, download the eBook for free and let the magic happen!
22 Ideas to Increase Your Self-confidence
Significant changes start with a first step. With this eBook, you will find several ideas to challenge yourself and break free from shyness.